For some people it's a defense mechanism. When some people feel they're under attack (even if they're not), they react by lashing out. In this case it's a verbal lashing. Or as the aspiring one said, the trigger can be frustration, though the response is the same.
Heightened emotional states make us lose our ability to inhibit certain types of responses, and while that can result in words being said that aren't meant, you should be prepared for the possibility that he truly does mean it.
I've heard enough complaints about other people to know that it's not something that only guys do, and it's not something that only happens in romantic relationships.
Can you two work together to resolve the issues which lead to him lashing out? If you can then if I were in your shoes I'd be happy to forgive.
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