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Originally Posted by geekchic9  What if you don't have anything fun to do at the moment, or you are so depressed that nothing looks fun?
Something I've observed about you, ken, is your lack of empathy and your promotion of pat, simple solutions for complex ills. It makes me wonder how old you are or perhaps what is lacking in your life experience. It is bothersome to me, as you seem to think you are actually helping people. Maybe you're great at getting people into the dating scene -- I don't know. All I know is that I haven't been helped by your comments one bit, and I don't think I'm the only one who feels this way. |
Just a quick note:
I think simple solutions are quite fine. BUT: The advice "don't live in the past" is like saying "go bake a cake" to someone who hasn't baken any cakes before and doesn't even have a recipe.
If you, ken, would answer the "how", this would be perfectly good advice.
I'll have a go at the "how to (not) live in the past":
When you "live in the past", you...
* remember (and relive and your head) the bad things you've done (corollary: write stuff down once and don't return to it daily -- get it out of your head!)
* think about what you've done and regret it or feel bad about it or hate yourself about it (corollary: don't think about it and if you do, just tell yourself: "I accept myself fully as I am. I forgive myself and truly love myself." Repeat a few times, do it throughout the day whenever you feel like you need reassurance.)
* talk to others about the past over and over again, without having a specific reason for doing so (corollary: find other topics for discussion with other people and stay aware so you notice when you're sliding back into the old habit of retelling the stories again and again)
If this is helpful and you ask me to provide more concrete samples of what (not) to do, I will
