Hi and thank you all for your very helpful responses
. I also have to add some good news - I didn't lose my job and it looks like I won't in the near future
. For the record, I took the ignore it approach and focused on things I felt good about, and actually things that you obtain through work, like money, but not my job in particular. I began to start to feel positive even with the thought of getting fired.
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Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot  The problem with (1) is that if you feel very negative (eg very angry, or very frightened) about your situation, you may find it almost impossible to think any positive thoughts about your situation. If that is the case, then the immediate thing you can do is (2). |
Exactly what I was thinking. It seems like a good strategy, although never thinking about it like I did, and just thinking about the one thing I need from my job, which is money or prosperity, for example, might be ok too...? I'm not too terribly fond of my job, I have to admit, but with all the things I have up in the air, the timing would be really bad to have to find a new career or even a new job right now.
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Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot I have to say that (2) is a powerful approach in itself, and not always. or necessarily, just something you do, when you can't do (1). |
I'm glad to hear that, because now that I have even more than one good thing to focus on, it is easy enough not to think about one bad thing.
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Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot As I said, a drastic example. But based on the number of "penis enlargement" spam ad emails I get, I'd guess that a huge number of men in the world suffer from the same insecurities. |
And based on the number of those penis-enlargement spam mails that I get in my mail, I'd guess that a lot of women have the same insecurity
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Originally Posted by Acting Like Godot If so, try (2). Take your attention off your problem. You may find it shrinking rapidly. |
Thanks, it seems like the quote provided by LoveFreedom supports this, and this is also what Calisto answered quite clearly. I'm glad for that
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