Flannel Guy,
There's not much I can say that hasn't been covered already.
Good on you for making your post.
You are quite polite, but your message really does come off as arrogant.
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I would like to be a person with more friends. And I would really enjoy having a good woman in my life again. But I am not sure really how to approach these social issues.
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You've been graceful in responding to people's comments, and I hope you take it upon yourself to learn as much as you can from everybody's feedback. The answers to your conundrum are in this thread.
I have had problems socializing as an adult, and I'm only now discovering that I am arrogant too. I grew up thinking I was special, that I really was better than everyone else. This revelation was quite painful, realizing what an ass I've been. And not intentionally, either. Arrogance doesn't stem from malice, it stems from insecurity.
But this discovery has also been liberating. I am now free to love and be loved. I hope you are able to discover the source of your problem too; it's been all but spelled out for you here.
Your default attitude towards others should be compassion. Love their faults as well as their strengths. It really will change who you are. Habitual criticism is a crutch a lot of us use to affirm our own worth. It doesn't work very well. Nobody is wholly an idiot, and nobody is wholly virtuous. We are all the same in that sense.
Good luck and keep your mind open to the advice you get in this thread. One thing I know for sure is that people are loved by others exactly as much as they love others.
