It's wonderful that you've been faithful to your wife for 19 years, I'd give you a big credit for that. And now instead of giving in to your desire you came here to ask for advice. You are a rare and good man.
Your situation is so natural, so human. I think any man or woman in a long marriage goes through the stuff like that. Desires, temptations, small crushes.
I don't think it's nesessary to hurt your wife's feelings talking about things like that. I wouldn't. Sometimes people have good intentions to be straight and honest and wind up hurting their dear ones terribly for no reason.
Keep it to yourself, fight it, deal with it.
It's your business to sort it out one way or the other. |