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But then someone has the right to feel murder isn't wrong?
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Vee, I tend to tune out when people talk about "right" and "wrong", because those words simply don't mean anything for me in generating a life I love.
But I get what you mean, I think ... you're worried that if you stop judging, then you'll be condoning, and that can't be good! But letting go of judgement doesn't mean you're condoning; it's just the first step to being accepting. If you are not accepting what's real, then you are too busy boxing ghosts to make a difference in your life.
For instance, someone has hurt you, and you're angry. Okay. Are you going to
stay angry? For how long? Does someone else, like the perpetrator, have to do something before you will stop being angry? Do you have other requirements that lay outside yourself that must be met in order for you to change the way you feel?
Or, are you willing to take on the task of doing what it takes to feel good, whatever that is -- taking 100% responsibility for it. That may mean taking steps to avoid getting hurt, or reporting him to the police, or letting him know that his actions have hurt you and requesting that he doesn't do it again, or on and on. It almost certainly means forgiving, regardless of what the perpetrator says or does.
If you're not willing to take on that task, that's fine. You are perfectly free to stay angry as long as you like.
So, you get to choose. And like you, everyone else does, too! I love it.
