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Originally Posted by Angela  Yeah, control is a great thing to let go of! Actually, the illusion of control, cuz you don't really have it anyway, do you, except fleetingly?
I would invite you to turn your last answer upside-down:
You want to let go of controlling what your daughter does. (I don't actually believe that -- I'll bet what you really want is to trust her and encourage her to make her own choices and make her own mistakes, so that she can grow up strong and live a life that she's in love with.) So, what are you willing to generate with your daughter? What quality or condition would make a difference if you were generating it?
I had to laugh at your marriage answer. You want to generate a healthy relationship, but you do want to be certain that your dh will change and improve what he can.  What are you willing to let go of there? Can you see that needing him to change and improve doesn't exactly generate freedom and love in a relationship? What is he, a fixer-upper? 
What could you generate around your body and your attitude towards it that would make a difference, in a brand new way?
And regarding your home, what could you let go of that would allow you to generate that peaceful beautiful place right now? What could you generate that would have you experiencing roots right now?
I was really struck by the ideas in the book, "The Astonishing Power of Emotions" about relating to your children (and everyone else, too). Maybe you would enjoy picking it up from the library? |
ETA: I came to even more realizations while
blogging today!
Ok Angela, let's see.
With my daughter I am (re) generating my patience and remember my unconditional love for her.
With my husband...there's more there. I meant that I know I can only change myself and have faith that it will have a positive effect on our relationship. With him changing, that is up to him and I am going off recent discussions and experience him and I have had.
I realized something about my weight yesterday. I am so hungry. I keep beating myself up that I"m not getting "on top of it" with my weight/food. I realized that my body is telling me to EAT and I am listening. I just had a baby 3 months ago and am nursing her. I lost 30 lbs right away, but have stayed the same since. It's not a super comfortable weight for me, but where I need to be right now. I'm not gaining, just maintaining apparently.
With my home...I actually love my house. It's just that my dh wants to go back to school, which means another move (we've moved 3 times in 6 months). I usually up for adventure and change, but am feeling tired of moving! In the meantime I can be open to friendships even though I am moving. I can just love and enjoy each day I do have here in this home.
The Astonishing Power of Emotions...I'll have to look into it. Thank you for the rec.!