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Originally Posted by akky  well they pretty much include worrying about losing them when we are getting alone fine. come to think of it now, when we are getting alone fine i observe things in a biased manner against myself. Like if they dont want to go somewhere with me or something i can be pretty harsh on myself with the what ifs. that sort of thing. if they did the same thing with someone who i believe they like then i wouldnt give it a thought.
i guess i know all the reasons why its happening but its just getting more and more complicated when other people come and become better friends with these guys and helping to make it all the more difficult. |
It sounds like you feel that you need these peole in your life and it scares you to think they might not include you. I would guess if you could feel that you don't really "need" them but enjoy them, then you'dfeel better.
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also slightly off topic and back to subjective reality, has anyone realised people do things that they dont normally do or have never done before when you remember or think about them in such situations. like if i think two people i know havent spoken for so long i soon find them in conversation. I think we control what people around us do and the way they act. i am experimenting with that and find i happen everytime.
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No one can control someone else (well people try to and it's not healthy usually). That is not good thinking to think we control what people around us do. It can be more that you pick up on situations and as an observer your thoughts of the situation is also part of that.