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NotesMaeve · 01-22-2008, 09:19 PM

Yep! But in reality, it's no bigger a crapshoot than marrying a dude you met in high school!

I think you have to ask yourself what you want in a relationship, of course. Unique passion and having two minds approach each other on equal intellectual and emotional ground is tres, tres important to me! But that's MY want. Not everyone wants a partner who can talk about literary criticism and can keep up with them at hiking, but those things are HUGE to me. Now, as I get older, likely having someone with boundless energy to hike with me will matter less as new things pop up and take time! But the intellectual pursuits shall always matter.

So for dating, it means figuring out:

What can I do by myself?

What is necessary for my partner to enjoy with me NOW?

What's necessary for long term?

What can I compromise on?

And that's my method of madness on dating!

01-22-2008, 09:19 PM	#13 (permalink)
NotesMaeve Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Sacramento, CA Posts: 937	Yep! But in reality, it's no bigger a crapshoot than marrying a dude you met in high school! I think you have to ask yourself what you want in a relationship, of course. Unique passion and having two minds approach each other on equal intellectual and emotional ground is tres, tres important to me! But that's MY want. Not everyone wants a partner who can talk about literary criticism and can keep up with them at hiking, but those things are HUGE to me. Now, as I get older, likely having someone with boundless energy to hike with me will matter less as new things pop up and take time! But the intellectual pursuits shall always matter. So for dating, it means figuring out: What can I do by myself? What is necessary for my partner to enjoy with me NOW? What's necessary for long term? What can I compromise on? And that's my method of madness on dating! __________________ <jamariquay> I never understood the need for people to kill for their religion. Then I remembered, "Wait. If Optimus Prime tells me to gack someone, that ****er's going down."