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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  There is a guy who's been in love with me for six years now and although I made it very clear that he has absolutely no chance to end up as my bf, he doesn't move on. I don't understand that! He says he can't help loving me cause I'm the most wonderful woman in the world  and keeps on adoring me, being so nice to me, and looking at me like I'm a goddess on Earth  Last time I talked to him that was one year ago, I saw him by accident at university and ignored him. He ran after me and asked if we could greet each other again. I bluntly said "no.", turned my back to him and went away. And now, one year later, he wrote me a very nice email wishing me a happy new year. That's not the first time. 
I know this exaggerated attachment has everything to do with some personal issues of him, and it's not my problem if he has a relationship or not, so this post is actually useless. I was just venting my astonishment. I find that just incredible! |
I think he has a typical "nice guy syndrom" behaviour (I mean, too much nice). Many men are like that, he is not the only one.
It's because, we men are pretty logical. We imagine that if we worship a girl and put her on a pedestal and make big love declarations, then she will love us in return.
It's like : "I'm nice, I'm soooo nice, so she should fall in love with me. With me she should feel like a godess, so she should love me because I am the only one who worship her so much".
Actually, it doesn't happen this way at all. For love a relationship, having someone who worships you is a big big turn off.
-First because when he worships you, it is because he his uncousciously trying to buy your love. He doesn't realise it but it is a kind of attempt to manipulate you. So it is not honest (but he certainly doesn't realise it so don't blame him too much)
-Then, a relationship is between two people. Not between a god and a people. He should add value to his relationships not try to get "god love and worshipping his partner".
He has to understand how relationships and attraction between a woman and a man works, that's it. He is just looking at it through his nice guy syndrome lenses. I'm pretty shure that when he understands how it works, he will stop to see you as a godess and start to pursue a relationship with a girl that makes him feel great.
It is not about you at all. He has things to learn. There is a book about it (I haven't read it but I'm sure this is the kind of advices he needs).
no more Mr nice guy