[ABlix]

I can explain this a little bit, I used to be as what steve called "Submissive," undervalue to oneself. Men told me to do things, and I didn't know what to do. I was so confused that any order I would take to heart. I was so focused on pleasing others, that I did not leave any room to be pleased myself. For example, one would buy others a gift instead of treating yourself to a well-deserved chocolate shake. There's no reason not to treat yourself as long as you are healthy

but for others..it's not offensive anything you do, it's simply a wrongful thinking command method. This is why judging others gets us in trouble. When you judge any stereotype, you are immediately judging yourself under subjective reality, which is why it's very difficult to sustain momentum when you're intolerant.