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Originally Posted by Angela  Isn't it possible that he sees you for who you really are: a goddess on earth, and you just haven't caught up with his brilliant perception, cuz you're stubborn? |
lol
Of course I am a fabulous goddess on earth and all men should realize that already
But fact is that I was clear about my no, so why doesn't he look for another goddess on earth? There are enough of them out there.
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Originally Posted by Angela Why are you so adamant that you not greet each other? That seems a little extreme to me, unless he's threatened to take away your children or something. Has he threatened to take away your children or something? If not, what's the refusal to allow greeting all about? Are you afraid that if you start saying hello, happy new year to each other, the next thing you know you'll be trapped in a loveless marriage? It's a slippery slope, this hello business. |
There is absolutely zero risk that I could end up in a marriage (or relationship) with him. I'm definitely not interested and nothing can change that.
But yes, it's a slippery slope: when I answered his greetings in the past, he came closer. He kept on writing, or when I saw him (at university, or in the city, it's a small town here, you always see people you know, and we studied the same and we have common friends) he just came too close while talking to me, and managed to sit down near me all the time, or started touching me. I'm usually very comfortable with physical contact, I even have a lot of physical contact with people I like (when they let me), but his way of touching me is just unpleasant. He did not perceive my defensive body language either, so I always had to tell him "Please do not touch me" and "Please don't come that close" or "no you don't need to help me with my coat". He was very understanding and said sorry and stopped doing it. But a few weeks later, he would do it again, like I'm a magnet. I got really fed up with having him glued to me so I decided that if he's not able to control himself, I'd better have no contact with him at all till he moved on.
Which he doesn't do!