[Freelancer]

Yeah, I dare you to give your real thoughts! Whether it be “shut up” or “I like what you said here….” Come on nobody learns ANYTHING from cutesy and/or nice comments! Give it to me! Ha ha ha!

I won't hold anything back.

-Can speak to audiences without hesitation or problems. In fact I love to give presentations and answer the questions people put forth. I do not get "stage fright".

-enjoy drinking, but very moderately, and I prefer only really good wine or beer. No cheap drinker by any means, and I dislike the typical bars. A favorite place to go have a drink is something like a small quiet jazz club for a glass of wine or pool hall for a beer.

-like reading good literature and philosophy. I listen to all kinds of music from Mozart to Powerman 5000. I only play one instrument, a harmonica, and I am marginal at that! ha ha ha

-Smoke my camels, I love to smoke, I quit once but took it back up because I enjoy it so. Say what you will, I like to smoke!

-Ever wonder who can fix most anything, yeah that would be me. Cars, RV's, water heaters, roofs, plumbing, electrical, I can weld, solder, sew, cook, write (ha ha), and etc...

-I love to travel. I spent time in Belize last year and can not wait to visit another place! I love to see the cultures and meet the different people so that I can better understand the world. Also I majored in a foreign field so I better like to travel huh!

-I can enjoy sitting at home watching a movie as well as I can going out with friends.

-Gardening is something that I learned to do and enjoy a number of years ago and grew (bad pun huh) to love. Ever taken care of a Lily of the Nile? it aint easy! Besides plants help the place look less sterile.

Are you telling us this to prove that you are in fact a person with depth and importance?
In that case, don't worry. The moment you made a post here is the moment I assumed you have depth of character.

That kind of says it all for me. I just prefer to talk about things that have significance.

The outdoors, I love to be outside. I moved from Oregon recently. Its different here, to say the least. But I love to be outside, whether it be hiking, fishing, mtn climbing, biking, walking, yard work or just grilling dinner. I love to be outside.

I work very hard to be open-minded and to be a giving person. Not that I am all the time, but I try.

So you are significant? And thus you prefer to only talk about thing that have significance. No wonder that;

And I have been told that I am, pompous, jaded, angry, short-tempered, cocky, arrogant, but also, giving, kind, friendly, clean, calm. Jaded is one of the things that kind of gets in the way though.

-Yeah, not much of a people person. Though it may sound contrary to some of the thing I said early, I dont like large groups. They freak me out.
I can give a speech, but a large group of people for instance a wedding, freak me out. I dont know why. I just do not like those situations. I have kind of given up on talking to people at times.

No wonder there's a small you in a vast sea of people, I'd feel self conscious and freak out as well.

-On the subject of women, why is it that if I act like a jerk then women like me. When I am just decent and courteous I get ignored. If I make fun of (or act like an a**hle to) women, then they want me around more and wanna talk to me. If I dont then I am basically not even remembered. Why is this??????? I really cannot understand this phenomenon! It doesnt make sense to me.

This one is easy to explain. Women are attracted to men who give them emotional spikes. When you are being decent and courteous they get bored, nobody remembers or wants to be around boring people. Acting like a ******* gives them a negative emotional spike hence attraction. You can also generate positive emotional spikes by being unpredictable and positive.
This is completely your choice.

-I cannot comprehend why on earth so many people do drugs, and yes I include pot in that classification. I have quite the hard time meeting anyone that doesnt "smoke". What is with everyone that they must do drugs today? I find this to be a MAJOR obstacle to meeting people, if you dont do then you arent accepted. In that case I would rather NOT be accepted.

For the same reason you freak out in crowds.
They are inside there mind and as a result they experience pain.
The only way to temporarily release pain is by using drugs.

I can completely understand why they do it.

-Maybe it is just the area I live in, or maybe the society we live in today. But I find it difficult to meet people that aren’t consumed by, stuff! Like they base who they are off what they have. I dated a woman for a very short time last year who was consumed by what she had or did not have. "I need that new phone, or shirt, or we have to go to that club...". Or they just have to be seen. Like they cant just do something, their ego has to be inflated when they do anything, there has to be people around when they do thing or go places so that they can feel important or special. Go fig...

Its great that your not consumed with stuff, be carefull though that its not your ego going 'Im so above that'.

-I dont think like many people, the way I base my life is quite different from what most people. I am not being elitist, I just base my life on ideas and philosophies that many other people do not. I came to what I think about the world in a very scientific-philosophical way. That creates a disparity between myself and other people because of values and the way the world is viewed. The way we view the world is so base to who we are, and I do not feel as though I fit in much of the time, It is an odd sensation to say the least. However, I dont say what I think about various things because it seems to foster animosity towards me.

How do you know?
Did you ask people about there dreams?
Did you ask people about there ambitions? There passions?
Did you try to find depth beyond the superficial?

Or are you just assuming that you know somebody by looking at the outside?

As a final word, I wonder why it is so hard for me to mix and meet people and make friends or have a girlfriend. I guess it shouldn’t come as a shock. If I really am as unusual as I think then I know why I don’t mix in!

There is much more to me than I could ever even begin to write here. As it would be for anyone. But these seem to be some of the things I think about when I ponder such things. So, what do you think?

I would like to be a person with more friends. And I would really enjoy having a good woman in my life again. But I am not sure really how to approach these social issues. I don’t really know what to say at this point. Comment and let me know what you think about what I have said.

Thank you for your response:

The Flannel Guy

You appear to be very self absorbed in your life, if this is true then no wonder you have few friends.

A self absorbed person drains the life out of his surroundings.

They absorb the energy of everyone around them.

They spread negativity into the world.

And they are alone.

First of all you need to start trying to understand the world in which other people life.

Try to understand there motivations.

Try to understand there dreams.

Ask them questions about there life.

Figure out what makes them human.


Then when your ready. Start reading and listening to Tolle.

You'll most likely reject it. Based on its not scientific, or its to much hocus pocus, or its just new agey stuff.

Stick with it.

This won't be easy in the beginning.

Your mind will scream that this is boring, not usefull and deceitfull.

If you can stick with it long enough then you'll start seeing the value of this.


When your ready take the challenge;
The Tolle Challenge