I think it's important to keep your desires private.
For example, when I told my best friend about my new goal to lose weight, he just nodded his head with that critical expression on his face (he's like that towards most people). Then, he went off to buy a bunch of doughnuts and ate them in front of me, which is fine -- but while eating, he kept trying to tempt me into having them. When another friend tried to lose weight, he would find ways to give him unhealthy food. I think this is the most obvious example of jealousy/envy. He's insecure about how he looks, and doesn't like the idea of his friends losing weight because they might become better looking than him. Most people probably won't be this obvious. Some people might even encourage you outwardly, but inwardly intend for you to fail. They might not even actively intend for this. They might just believe you will fail, which could influence your results. Overall, it's just a good idea to keep things private, ESPECIALLY among friends, co-workers, and acquaintances because these are the people who will feel in "competition" with you.
I did lose 25 lbs since then however, but I think my weight loss experience would generally have been more positive if I didn't tell him or anyone anything.  |