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Originally Posted by FreelanceWanderer  On a conscious level, I am ready for this. But I also feel so scared and anxious about the whole thing that I've been putting off filling out the adoption agency application. I keep wondering What if? What if the baby is too difficult? What if we can't handle the loss of freedom? What if we don't make enough money? (We're both freelancers.) What if the baby isn't healthy? What if my parents don't treat our adopted baby as one of the family? What if? What if? What if?
I understand that everyone has these fears before they take the leap, whether they're adopting or having a baby. So what is it that makes people go for it in spite of the fears? |
FW - Sweetie, if a clueless-college-dropout-party-girl who got a little careless with the birth control can successfully raise a child to be a functioning, thoughtful, productive adult, I have no doubt that you can!
Here's the deal. You never have enough money. You never have enough time. You never have enough answers. You're never prepared for what comes next. Every time you get good at it, whatever stage they're in, everything changes. But you know what? You just do it.
The day I came home from the hospital with my newborn son, I laid him down for a nap and proceeded to sob hysterically for over an hour. I was absolutely terrified with what lay before me and my lack of preparation for the task. But at some point I figured out you just do it.
You just get up every day and love them like crazy and do the best you can in that moment of that day. And before you know it, they're all grown up. (Then you have to deal with the whole let them go off to see the world issue, but we'll talk about that down the road)!
You'll be a terrific mom.