 How do you know when you're ready to have kids?
My husband and I are both close to 40 and we finally feel ready, financially and emotionally, to have kids. For various personal reasons, we've decided to adopt and have already had appointments with an adoption agency and an adoption lawyer. The idea is very exciting and gives me a good feeling.
On a conscious level, I am ready for this. But I also feel so scared and anxious about the whole thing that I've been putting off filling out the adoption agency application. I keep wondering What if? What if the baby is too difficult? What if we can't handle the loss of freedom? What if we don't make enough money? (We're both freelancers.) What if the baby isn't healthy? What if my parents don't treat our adopted baby as one of the family? What if? What if? What if?
I understand that everyone has these fears before they take the leap, whether they're adopting or having a baby. So what is it that makes people go for it in spite of the fears?
(I should add that I have an anxiety disorder, so when I worry, I WORRY. I also get panicked easily.)
Thanks so much for your support!
FW
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