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Originally Posted by Zomer Briez  I also have few friends. I think this is the main reason why:
(Probably the same for a lot of us here)
- 90% or more of people are less intelligent (This is true if you have an IQ of 130 or more) and
getting along with people of dissimilar intelligence (even if it is only 5-10 IQ points) can be difficult.
If you have an IQ of the average 100 there's going to be a lot more people in the suitable intelligence range to get along with than if you have an IQ around 130 or more. 
Interestingly both my best friend and I scored the same exact intelligence,
and my parents who've been happily married for 27 years also scored the same exact intelligence.
So I definitely think it's important to have a similar IQ to have a good relationship. If two friends don't have the same IQ the less intelligent one will feel intimidated all the time and the more intelligent one will be annoyed by the other's lack of intelligence all the time.
On a random note I've always felt like I've gotten along with more people in Japan. I feel like there's just a larger number of intelligent people there, and sure enough looking at some statistics recently the average IQ there is 107, versus the United State's 98. |
It seems to me what you're describing is really a gap between interests.
IQ is an expression of only the intellect and the intellect does not make the person. Most social interaction is an emotional interaction. However, many high-IQ people will make it an intellectual interaction because they've learned to rely on intelligence for everything. If you are talking logic-and-facts and someone else is talking intuition-and-feelings then you're not going to have any kind of communication at all really.
I think the intellect is seriously over-emphasized in our culture. It's only one small part of the whole human experience. But in North America we are taught to treat it like it is ALL that we are - like there is NOTHING else! Even fields that are entirely non-intellectual become intellectualized, like pretty much every art form for instance.
An intellectually directed approach to art is literally painting by numbers no matter how big your blockbuster budget may be. An intellectual approach to socializing is equally mis-guided.
If you find that you can only speak about certain topics and speak about them in terms of logic and facts, then you are probably completely unaware of several major parts of your anatomy.
I've been there so I know it can happen.