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Originally Posted by Flash1988  I think for the stranger one the useful belief is that "we're all one".. "we're all part of the same thing" or "we're all connected".
I think that I tend to resist change.
I wrote this in 3rd person.
Here's some of the beliefs I got which I want to change...
That change, for him is hard.
That change is slow and requires lots of hard work.
That he cannot change.
I'm wondering what useful beliefs could be to replace those.. Like "Change is quick and easy for me, although some change requires slow steady progress"?
Thanks for the responses again.. Tobias I'll check out your blog in a bit! Cheers |
Flash, beliefs will probably not change simply by being aware of them. Every belief change has to pass through uncertainty before it gets shattered and turned into an old belief. Think of things that you once believed to be true and now don't. What changed your mind?
First though you HAVE to associate with your beliefs. By disassociating (3rd person) you are pushing them away from you and you'll struggle to change them at all.
Look at the belief or concern that is at hand. Think of ways in which it is inaccurate or could be mistaken. Look for evidence when this has not been the case or when you have managed to deal with similar occurrences successfully (Important: they do not have to be identical, just look for common threads running through). If there are no examples like that, look for cases where other people have done whatever it is so you know it is possible. Just do whatever is necessary to undermine, obliterate and ridicule it.
Did you read my article on
change It may help somewhat.