I guess it's nice and unexpected to know that people were not saying I was to blame for my brother's anger--one just assumes that, because it's what the person who is angry says, and then I thought others here were saying it too, basically agreeing with my brother about me being bad and difficult.
Unfortunately for me, the only way I could ever manage to deal with my dad and brother was to cut off contact and stay away. I can maintain email contact with my brother, but evidently that is the limit. I can't even do that much with my dad. Both of them must be experienced (separately) to be "appreciated," as they defy description.
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Originally Posted by JimOfferman 
Your brother getting angry at you is his fault, not yours. Anybody getting angry at you is their fault, not yours. All you can do is decide how you want to deal with that.
('henceforth' is such a fancy word, don't you agree? thanks for giving me the opportunity to use it  ) |
Yes, it's a nice word
. Like "wherefore" and "hereinafter"...used in law a lot...and Shakespeare
.