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Originally Posted by Bliss Sage  First, I have to say, I did not mean you personally when I was talking about the fox. It actually happens that a lot of people do that, and the worst of the lot for me are my brother and father and if I was thinking of anyone when I wrote those things, it was of them. It was not meant for you. You are hardly sticking your nose in my business  |
Pfew!
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It doesn't come across that way. Again, I'm not responding to you personally. It comes across as "it's your own fault that your brother is always getting angry at you" or that it's your fault that your father is the way he is and that they all treat you the way they treat you. That is what I understood.
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Your brother getting angry at you is his fault, not yours. Anybody getting angry at you is their fault, not yours. All you can do is decide how you want to deal with that.
When my sister was a teenager, there were numerous fights between my dad and my sister
every single day. The cause was always something nonsensical like my dad not finding the scissors in their usual location and then blaming my sister for not returning them to the proper spot, even when she didn't take him. My sister would get angry at him for always blaming her for everything (which, as far as I can understand, were his misguided attempts at trying to get her to be all she could be). Shouting matches would ensue and they got worse progressively.
One day my sister decided that she would be the wiser one and stopped adding fuel to the fire. So the fire burnt out.
Was she to blame? No. But she did have the power to change the situation.
(My dad is a good guy, really, but like all of us he is far from perfect)
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If I want advice, I usually make that clear in what I'm writing.
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Then I shall henceforth refrain from giving you any advice, unless you specifically ask for it.
('henceforth' is such a fancy word, don't you agree? thanks for giving me the opportunity to use it
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