First, I have to say, I did not mean you personally when I was talking about the fox. It actually happens that a lot of people do that, and the worst of the lot for me are my brother and father and if I was thinking of anyone when I wrote those things, it was of them. It was not meant for you. You are hardly sticking your nose in my business
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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  I'm not saying that someone's misery is their fault, but I am saying that they should assume responsibility for generating happiness in their own life. Nothing more, nothing less. It's not about blaming the victim, it's about teaching the "victim" how to cope better with life. Apparently my choice of words doesn't make that clear to you, for which I'm sorry. I'll try to do better next time. |
It doesn't come across that way. Again, I'm not responding to you personally. It comes across as "it's your own fault that your brother is always getting angry at you" or that it's your fault that your father is the way he is and that they all treat you the way they treat you. That is what I understood.
I generally don't ever ask for advice on forums and if I do, I accept and deal with what comes. However, I write personal things about myself, not to elicit advice, but to participate and share with other people. If I want advice, I usually make that clear in what I'm writing.