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Originally Posted by Bliss Sage  "I am a difficult person to live with" and evidently there are a sh*tload of things wrong with me which causes people not to like me. |
Bliss Sage, I am so sorry you're hurting, and I hope that you can get through to the other side of pain quickly, if that's what you want to do.
I want you to be clear that I don't consider you to be a difficult person to live with, and I don't think there's a sh*tload of things wrong with you. In fact, I don't think there's
anything wrong with you at all, and I find you to be easy and very helpful to "live" with (virtually!). I am really glad you're here.
I'm a big proponent of taking 100% responsibility for your life, and generating a life you're in love with. That's the spirit in which I was asking you to consider that your attitude contributes to how people perceive you. (when I say "you" I mean "a person", not you personally and specifically.)
I'm not sure how to honor your request for me to not tread blindfolded on your personal life, because I can't see how what I said to you -- that is, asking you to look at what you're generating in your life -- is different from what I do any other time. I was responding only to what you wrote here, not to your history. It feels to me like you "hear" me saying there's something wrong with you, or that you should change, or that you're bad (or something like that.) I am a little stopped here, because what I want to communicate to you is that you're absolutely, perfectly perfect, exactly as you are and exactly as you are not. I would like for you to see that you have all the power in the world to create a life you are in love with, if you choose to do that. And if you don't choose to do that, that's fine too. (I guess I work from the base assumption that people here
want to generate a life that they're in love with, and of course not everybody wants to do that. I'm sorry if I had you feeling bullied into doing that -- I can be pretty blunt!)
I would love to hear any advice you may have for me in this regard -- "how can I be understood by you?" It's a challenge between us, I realize.
Again, I really hope you are able to transform your pain. Pain sucks.