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Originally Posted by freddy  Why is it so hard to start over after you loose at love. My wife died and I find it almost to frustrating to even wanting to try the dating game. I am way to shy. It took me years to meet my wife. And now with two kids. I am not going to be first pick in any contest. if you know what i mean. Any words of wisdom good or bad. TIA Freddy |
I wouldn't call your wife passing as "losing" in any way. You have 2 wonderful kids and she didn't leave you willingly. What I have heard is to go about your business, continue with any activities that you enjoy and when the time is right someone will show up. If you try to force it you will either settle or find someone who really doesn't click.
And either of those are ok; you just need to realize if you want companionship right now and not long term (and I'd suggest that companionship after a LTR would not hurt) it's ok. Whatever works for your needs is ok. Just be clear with yourself and the other person. Not all relationships last forever and they don't have to be a certain "boy-friend/girlfriend, husband/wife" kinda thing.