Here, if you're really serious about this, read this:
Don't You Know There's A War On? - Real Social Dynamics Nation
If you do this you WILL get better. Zen master meets super fly dude.
BTW I LOVE Eckhart Tolle, his stuff is totally awesome and really puts you into the now.
And read this for the BARE BASICS:
Real Social Dynamics Blog: Outer Game Extravaganza
If you apply just these two articles and read and listen to lots of Eckhart Tolle you WILL get better at an exponential rate. It works, it's natural, and spreads happy positivity deluxe around the world.