Tigerlily, your post is so right on -- 'what is there to learn from this'?
I believe that whenever there is an emotion present that causes you discomfort or pain, I am being given the huge gift of a potential breakthrough. The more I complain or fume, the more valuable the gift is likely to be. The more inquiry I bring to my thoughts about my discomfort or pain, the faster I can reach breakthrough results -- and generate something that works much, much better in living a life I love.
So when I see someone beating her head against the wall in anguish, I am so grateful, because she is me, and I get to ask where I'm beating my head against the wall, too. In this case, I think part of it is "why am I beating my head against the wall about people who beat their heads against the wall?"
If any thought would benefit from inquiry, THAT one would!
Thanks, Floridagal.
Love,
Angela