Hey Freddy,
I've got a different take on your endeavor to start a new relationship.
I believe all actions are either stemmed from love or fear. I'm going to assume that your shyness or resistance to meet new women and enter into a new relationships stems from fear.
Your fear acts like a counter-intention to your conscious decision to meet women. I'm curious if you're fear has come from some form of incompletion with your past wife? Would you feel guilty meeting new woman?
When I told my wife Trisha, "I love you" for the very first time it was very difficult. Some of my friends couldn't understand why this would be so difficult because they were brought up in an environment where it was normal to say "I love you" to their parents. I was not brought up this way.
Seeing that I didn't say "I love you" to my parents when I was growing up it made it very difficult for me to enter into new relationships. For years I was in relationships where there was no connectedness.
Once I did bring up the
courage to tell Trisha "I love you" all those barriers melted away and I'm grateful that they did because I now have the most amazing relationship.
I wish you well,
Stephen Martile — Personal Development Made Simple