Taking responsibility for one's own life does not cancel out receiving or giving help and compassion. Responsibility also says nothing about the value or worth of a person, nor does it label events as "good" or "bad".
What it does is give someone in a dire situation power. Power to help themselves, get out, get help, whatever. Someone with cancer can say "I don't like what is happening to me, but I accept it, it is my experience". This takes a person from being victimized by something uncontrollable to being in control and powerful.