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alsy · 11-24-2006, 11:47 AM

I also use to be self critical and afraid to express or share because of what I thought people may think. I still experience it but far more mildly now. I am becoming more aware of it. When I do, I have the choice to make more sense of it by observing it from a different point and make a better decision about what I will do or say. Different people think different things. So if you try to please one person, there is bound to be someone else you can not please. In the end, all I experienced was warring within myself, and just plain unhappy. Feel pleased with yourself first, and then decide what you really would like to do.
Don’t worry about age. Seriously!!! Age is only a number until you give it importance. In which case it would govern your life. Do you want to run your life (with a greater ease), or do you want a number & other people to run the show. You have already taken the steps to increase your knowledge, but don’t do it for security. Only do it because you want to do it. (just my opinion)

You already have a skill, which few people possess. You have a passion about it, AND you recognize it. That’s a GREAT start.

Have you ever thought of your skill as dynamic intelligence?

Wether you are reading, & or receiving it intuitively through 1 or more faculties, it does not matter. It is information, comprehension, understanding etc that is comming to you. We are all evolving in discovering and working with our inner abilities, so dont be hard on yourself.

I use to also think like you in my early twenties. (“ I don’t have knowledge to share or hold an intelligent conversation”,, blah, blah,,,) I have over the past few years, begun to recognize that intelligence is not just at the level of memory and intellect.
When I do find myself in conversations that are outside of my knowledge, I listen to the conversation. If I listen to the self criticism, the conversation falls to the background and I miss out. I ask questions, and I learn from people too. Over time, this ads to my knowledge base. I approach them with a genuine desire to know and I don’t recall anyone ever having a problem with my questions. Even if it happens to be something that many people in that circle may be familiar with, people don’t mind. People don’t mind talking about their passion. If you are OK with people, and most importantly yourself, people will be OK with you.
Each one of us likes different things, and gets involved in different things, and has therefore a different knowledge base. If you wanted broader knowledge, you really don’t need to become an expert in other people’s passions and expertise or specific areas of interest.

That’s my perspective on some of what I relate to from my life.

11-24-2006, 11:47 AM	#5 (permalink)
alsy Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Melbourne, Australia Posts: 101	Have you ever thought of your skill as dynamic intelligence. I also use to be self critical and afraid to express or share because of what I thought people may think. I still experience it but far more mildly now. I am becoming more aware of it. When I do, I have the choice to make more sense of it by observing it from a different point and make a better decision about what I will do or say. Different people think different things. So if you try to please one person, there is bound to be someone else you can not please. In the end, all I experienced was warring within myself, and just plain unhappy. Feel pleased with yourself first, and then decide what you really would like to do. Don’t worry about age. Seriously!!! Age is only a number until you give it importance. In which case it would govern your life. Do you want to run your life (with a greater ease), or do you want a number & other people to run the show. You have already taken the steps to increase your knowledge, but don’t do it for security. Only do it because you want to do it. (just my opinion) You already have a skill, which few people possess. You have a passion about it, AND you recognize it. That’s a GREAT start. Have you ever thought of your skill as dynamic intelligence? Wether you are reading, & or receiving it intuitively through 1 or more faculties, it does not matter. It is information, comprehension, understanding etc that is comming to you. We are all evolving in discovering and working with our inner abilities, so dont be hard on yourself. I use to also think like you in my early twenties. (“ I don’t have knowledge to share or hold an intelligent conversation”,, blah, blah,,,) I have over the past few years, begun to recognize that intelligence is not just at the level of memory and intellect. When I do find myself in conversations that are outside of my knowledge, I listen to the conversation. If I listen to the self criticism, the conversation falls to the background and I miss out. I ask questions, and I learn from people too. Over time, this ads to my knowledge base. I approach them with a genuine desire to know and I don’t recall anyone ever having a problem with my questions. Even if it happens to be something that many people in that circle may be familiar with, people don’t mind. People don’t mind talking about their passion. If you are OK with people, and most importantly yourself, people will be OK with you. Each one of us likes different things, and gets involved in different things, and has therefore a different knowledge base. If you wanted broader knowledge, you really don’t need to become an expert in other people’s passions and expertise or specific areas of interest. That’s my perspective on some of what I relate to from my life.