You can bet your father-in-law has passed it on to another child who was not aware and still isn't. The abuse changes form as it is passed from generation to generation and is difficult to recognize in a different personality.
The sad thing to me is that he does not see it. He is being himself. He doesn't know any other way. He is not alone. There are many in the same situation who are also completly unaware of it. Most human's deny thier own 'evil' because it would break their hearts to know how much they have hurt others. I would not wish that on anyone. We just have to get wise and not be intimidated by their actions as it seems you already have in your family.
No, it doesn't have to be that way.
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Originally Posted by Old Soul  Actually emotional abuse is not just subject to ones childhood, My father in law is an expert at emotional abuse, he plays his manipulative games on anyone , who will let him get away with it...
was he emotionally abused, yes , what is sad is that he is in denial of it, therefore not able to change..... and as a result , he is quite a lonely man , as nobody wants to be around him for very long , and it doesn't have to be that way |