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Originally Posted by Colm OReilly  Train yourself to be more focused on the other person than you are on yourself. |
I second that. It helps when instead of focusing on how you're feeling, you make it your primary focus to make other people feel better.
It also helps to remember a lot of people you'll speak to also have the same fears
wadoo, the worst thing that can happen here is if you let your fear constrict you. I used to be afraid of public speaking...until I started doing more presentations in front of groups of people.
The more I did it, the more comfy I got with doing it, sometimes it was even fun!
Doesn't mean I don't get the butterflies in my stomach from time to time, but my previous experiences help me deal with them much better.
Nobody starts off riding a bicycle like an Olypmic champion
you get on, stumble, fall off, get back on again, stumble, ride. Didn't mean you sucked, you just had to practice.
Anytime you're going to do something new, you're going to be uncomfortable. But doing things that are good for you and scare you help you burst out of that ole comfort zone!
My suggestion; put yourself in situations where you'll have to meet new people. Bring a friend if that helps. Read a couple of books on this, and go out and practice. The real world efforts pay off the most