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Originally Posted by The Yarnist  What ways do you all find helpful in surrending to the flow of parenting? |
It's certainly a challenge alright! At difficult or frustrating times I try to remind myself of two things:
First, they're the kids in this relationship, it's OK for them to behave like children. I should know better. This helps to stop me from getting angry when, for example, I've asked my son to do something for the
fifth time with no response.
Second, they learn appropriate behaviour by watching ours, so when they're not doing what we expect them to I think carefully about how we've been behaving. Trivial example: we're trying to teach them to always say 'please' and 'thank you', yet listening to our conversation my wife & I frequently say 'Can you do this' or 'Could you do that' without the please. Doh!
Other than that, assiduously cultivate patience and treat them with the respect you would accord an adult, but don't expect them to behave like one.