I'll wager that when you're talking to people easily, you're more devoted to what they are saying and doing, listening to them and responded. When you are not talking freely and easily, chances are you're thinking about yourself, how you feel awkward and can't come up with anything to say.
Train yourself to be more focused on the other person than you are on yourself.
This is just a quick suggestion you can start to implement straight away. On the whole confidence thing I blog on that (just getting started) so if you want to read some of what I've written it might be helpful.
Of course, a good coach will do wonders for you (mine has done wonders for me)
Colm
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