Originally Posted by Maciek
The thing in myself that I hate(and I want to work on it) is that I'm not talkative and whenever I meet new people after a while I don't know what to talk about, in a group of people/friends I am always silent, just listening to what othes are talking, it is so annoying! even with my friends I have this problem. As a result people think I am boring so it is hard to make real friends...
I'm working on this too! When you're in a group, it sure can feel awkward, because everyone else is going on about whatever (usually nothing!), and you're stuck thinking drastically of something to say. Like you, I'm prone to spending more time listening. I usually do this because I am a very reflective person and like to consider all points of view before saying something. Anyway, I posted the same question as you on another forum and got a piece of advice I've found very helpful for when I WaNt to say something: just talk out loud to yourself. I found that this helps a lot when I "need" to say something. So instead of trying to think of things to say to other people, I just say outloud the things that I normally think just to myself. It's not 100% easy to do--sometimes I feel silly about saying just what is in my head--but I'm trying to go with it, and it helps. Another thing I'm trying to do is disclose more information about myself. I usually just keep everything in, but how can anyone talk to me if I don't give'em something to keep them interested?
If anyone else has any tips, by all means share--I'd love to know! And good luck and warm wishes.