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Originally Posted by Char  Its been like this for years and I don't understand why I am not willing to work harder to make changes. I think I have a hard time with the thought of hard work. I get overwhelmed and want to give up and feel like I will be unable to succeed. |
Hello Char
Happy Thanksgiving!
I can sense your anxiety in your post too. You must be feeling terrible, aren't you? Here's some hugs for you to make you feel better. Actually if you look around, there are many people who care as much for you whether or not you are as intellectually-smart as them or not.
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Originally Posted by Char I want to feel that I can hold my own in a room of adults, in situations that include discussion and debate in important areas. The few areas I am knowledgeable about, mainly understanding and reading people, I am very passionate about. |
Socialising is not about who is smarter or who has more knowledge to share, though it is good to know some for better conversation.
How do you define whether the topic is important or not? The fact they are discussing it only shows their interest, or hey, probably it's only one person's interest and he is babbling on how much he knows about that. Maybe he only knows about that particular topic?
How about working on your passion first? Because learning takes on a faster and much enjoyable level when it is something you are passionate about. Make yourself an "expert" in an area, or two maybe.
Take baby steps along the way. It'll be too overwhelming to want to be a master of all trades in such a short time, and it dilutes your focus, so you may end up jack of all trades master of none!
You may like to catch yourself with those negative thoughts eveytime you say them in your head, and replace with positive ones. Just a simple switch in mindset will have a direct impact on you already.
You can actually pick up lots of information and gain your knowledge through reading (of course), forums (like this) and watching certain quality TV programmes. Some niche magazines have excellent stuff to read too.
I'm sure there are more methods and suggestions, maybe I'll write a post on this too. Hmm ...
