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Originally Posted by ScottJMurray  As a result of increased self-love, other people tend to be attracted to you because you radiate so much positive energy all the time. I'm watching it work right now. The more you accept yourself... the more everyone around you accepts you. |
Yes this is what we need to keep in mind. It's like putting the cart before the horse. "WHEN other people love me I will LOVE MYSELF and FEEL GOOD."
But the reality is "WHEN I LOVE MYSELF and FEEL GOOD, THEN other people will love me."
You can't take from someone else (love) that which you don't have within yourself to GIVE. You can't receive something you're not resonating with already.
So just keep appreciating yourself. The fact that you're asking these questions means that deep down something is saying "hey! I'm a great person! Why don't I feel that way? Something's wrong here! I deserve to give myself some more credit. How can I do this? I deserve more."
REFUSE...REFUSE... to EVER criticize yourself or put yourself down. You will make mistakes, we all do... but YOU, at your CORE, are good, lovable, worthy of love. Don't even listen to that evil ego voice that says otherwise. It's wrong. You may not be used to distinguishing THAT negative voice that is lying to you... but once you learn to actually notice when it's lying to you, you can start fighting back. "No. That's BS. I AM good, worthy, lovable. You're wrong."
And you keep doing that, eventually, it's just going to give up. It thinks it's right. Once you convince it that it's wrong, it'll believe you. It has no choice--it's your own mind. You control it. It will believe whatever you tell it to.