Rosenkruez,
Wow! You are in a tight spot, indeed! I agree with Angela; your dad will continue to take advantage of you until you put a stop to it.
Maybe you should consider getting some financial counseling. Sometimes local colleges offer free night courses. If this is beyond your financial resources, maybe you could find a free course on the Internet. Then make a financial plan. Decide how much money you need to pay your rent, pay for food and clothing and how much money you'd like to put away in savings each month. Then you might consider opening another checking account. Let your first checking account be the one you share with your dad where you can deposit your share of the rent and utilities. Use the second checking account, which your dad doesn't have access to, to deposit your paychecks. Then deposit into the first, shared checking account only what you plan to share with your dad.
My guess is that your dad will continue to want all or most of your money and will make you feel guilty if you don't provide it. If that happens you might just explain to your dad that you are only following his advice and saving your money.
I would also encourage you to re-consider whether your brothers are truly selfish. It may be that they too have experienced the situation that you are now experiencing with your dad and that they had to take a hard stance to stop it from happening to them. It's hard, at a young age, to stand up to forceful people like your dad and maybe they didn't do it gracefully.
I hope you'll continue to update your progress on this site. You don't need to go through this alone.
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