 wow, you're in a tight spot!
Welcome. I hope you get value from being here.
You say your dad is not a bad person, and you are probably right. He is, though, a person who steals from, lies to, and manipulates his son. And you are a person who enables stealing, lying, and manipulating.
You have set the entire pattern for how your relationship will be with your father until the day one of you dies. The longer you you agree with your dad to be his victim, the more that pattern will set in and the more difficult to extricate yourself from. Also, the more resentment will build up.
You are 19. Are you willing to live your live in poverty, stess, and resentment for the rest of your life? Now would be a good time for you to make your well-being your number one priority. You don't owe it to your dad to be his indentured servant. You can see plainly what is in store for you if you don't act to end the leeching. If you end it, you might incur his wrath. You might choose to continue to funnel all your money to him forever -- but do you think that's going to allow you to have a good relationship with him?
I am sorry for the pain you are feeling in this predicament, and I wish you all kinds of power, clarity, and love in making your choices.
Angela
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