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NotesMaeve · 01-09-2008, 06:10 PM

I'm pretty bummed about it. Xmas was a little intense and Slamhot and I spent much of it looking wide-eyed at each other mouthing, "What the hell?" as BIL and brother bickered and yelled at each other, us, and any other thing alive.

At lunch on Sunday Slamhot says, "Your brother and BIL won't get married."

Monday rolls around. Oh, marriage not happening.

My brother is a dude who really thinks he NEEDS a partner to be happy. Also, he has problems letting people in. He swallows stuff, holds onto sadness/anger. (Y'know, like I'm trying to stop doing!) I offered to come hang with him. I offered to talk with him. Nothing I'm offering to do seems quite right to break him out of any degree of pain. Is there anything? Do I really just have to wait this out?

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NotesMaeve Senior Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Sacramento, CA Posts: 937	Brother and BIL Broke Up I'm pretty bummed about it. Xmas was a little intense and Slamhot and I spent much of it looking wide-eyed at each other mouthing, "What the hell?" as BIL and brother bickered and yelled at each other, us, and any other thing alive. At lunch on Sunday Slamhot says, "Your brother and BIL won't get married." Monday rolls around. Oh, marriage not happening. My brother is a dude who really thinks he NEEDS a partner to be happy. Also, he has problems letting people in. He swallows stuff, holds onto sadness/anger. (Y'know, like I'm trying to stop doing!) I offered to come hang with him. I offered to talk with him. Nothing I'm offering to do seems quite right to break him out of any degree of pain. Is there anything? Do I really just have to wait this out?