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Originally Posted by RT Wolf  Just so you guys know, you are asking for the secret to happiness. To be happy regardless of circumstances. I was about to write a blog entry about that. I might get it done today, might not. Essentially the idea is thus:
Physical things do not hold meanings in and of themselves. We, using our consciouesnesses, create that meaning and from that meaning (or interpretation), we feel certain ways about it. As someone quite wise wrote, there is a lookup table in our heads. Its not based by evolution, because I don't think Ogg the caveman had to deal with creditors. There are a few things that seem to be evolutionary based, such as a fear of snakes. That means the other option is that these look tables were inherited and influenced by society, parents, etc, and that means that you have the conscious ability to choose different meanings for the same symbols. Failure can mean different things to different people (ie, something to cry about, or something to learn from), just as the physical fact of waking up in the morning and finding your bank balance to be 50,000 dollars, would mean something different to me (hooray!) than it would be to a millionaire (holy crap, where'd all my money go? I'm practically poor!).
Also recognize you always have a choice. Even if it is to live or die. No one can force anything on you. Its the consequences of your choices that are the problem, but you always have a choice. "If I did not have a body, then what worries have I?" Puts things in perspective.
The big secret to happiness? It doesn't need a reason.
Excersize, proper sleep and proper diet help immensely. |
This conversation we are all having is really, really, really important.
I'm not so sure, in my case, it's about happiness, although I know what you're saying -- to be detached, I have to feel like it's ok if I reach the monetary goal and it's ok if I don't.
To re-frame the question then: how does one effectively manifest X amount of money when she/he needs it, rather than just thinks it would be fun to have it? It truly is different, isn't it?
Or is it?
This conversation is really important because I keep feeling there is a key here that I can't quite reach that could be of immense benefit to people (like me) who need to manifest more income and have been having no end of trouble with this no matter how hard they work, and people who are in financial difficulty, and I think this is a reason why a lot of people find this website in the first place.
It's like when I said I can manifest a penny in 10 minutes, no problem. It's not just that a penny is a small amount -- it's because I don't need a penny. I've got plenty of pennies. So I can go out and manifest pennies all day long.
My ideas of manifesting pennies, though, all involve my already having at least 1000 times that amount in order to get my penny.
So I can't use the same formulas on manifesting $1000 because I don't have $100K sitting around to use to go get it.
This whole money issue, and acting like you have money in order to get money, is mystifying to me, because no matter how much I think about it, I don't know how to act like I have money when I don't have it.
One of my friends did this and eventually they came and repossessed his Explorer.
I try and align it with other episodes of lack. Say one moves to a new town and doesn't have any friends. How do you make friends? Be a friend. Go do things you would normally do with friends that involve meeting people. Ask people to go out for dinner. And so on.
That's easy for me. I don't know how that compares to achieving a monetary goal, however.
Once upon a time I had a friend who would never take 'no' for an answer if I didn't want to do something with her. I could not say "I don't really feel like it," because it would cause no end of trouble. And we ran in the same social circles, so I couldn't say, "I already have plans with Jen," because she could easily find out that wasn't true. So I made up a friend and named her Pam. And sometimes I would haul out this imaginary friend Pam to get me out of doing something I didn't want to do.
Within about a month, I wound up acquiring an actual friend named Pam and we are still good friends years later. This was extremely weird and cool for me. I sometimes refer to her by saying something like, "Tonight I'm going to the movies with my imaginary friend Pam."
I have absolutely no idea how to do this with money. I carry money around in my wallet, and instead of attracting more, eventually it gets spent on groceries and the like. The six gold-colored dollar coins that I mentioned as being 'wins' in one of my first postings, I keep on my desk, and I've steadily been making less money ever since I won them. I also keep a big container of change in the office to remind me I don't need to cash it in. Things are going steadily downhill. This is not my attitude. This is fact.
I can attract all sorts of other great experiences, but money . . . that is proving to be very tough, and I really seriously want/need this problem solved, and soon. And I'm willing to go on about this here because I can see there are a lot of other people who have this same issue.