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cylon · 01-09-2008, 04:41 PM

So I'm talking to my friend. He has a co-worker who needs a job. He says the guy's wife isn't helping out because she has dreams to be an actress and refuses to do anything but that, etc. Whatever, not my concern.

So, my friend says "yeah you have to realize that when you're in your 30s if you haven't made it by then you're probably not going to be some famous actress, I had dreams but if I didn't focus on my career instead I wouldn't have my own apartment and no one wants to pay for art in this country you don't get paid to do what you want you get paid to work hard and some people are lucky but you have to be realistic and..."

CANCEL! CANCEL! Damn.

Some of you may know my "dream" is to release music and I have a bit of a struggle between devoting myself to my career and putting more time into my music, I've talked about it before. I don't think it's a real conflict, just in my mind. I wonder if I "attracted" this conversation as a reflection of my own dilemma.

I would never tell someone that, "ah, you know if you haven't made it yet you should probably think about putting those dreams behind you". I think I need more positive friends. This does not help me. We are who we are around.

But it's all opinion. You can't prove an argument like that. So why is it taken as fact? It has no basis. Have you guys had doubts like these about your dreams and overcome them? Wouldn't most successful people say "I never gave up, never doubted I could be the best (abc)."

01-09-2008, 04:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
cylon Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,852	a horrible attitude So I'm talking to my friend. He has a co-worker who needs a job. He says the guy's wife isn't helping out because she has dreams to be an actress and refuses to do anything but that, etc. Whatever, not my concern. So, my friend says "yeah you have to realize that when you're in your 30s if you haven't made it by then you're probably not going to be some famous actress, I had dreams but if I didn't focus on my career instead I wouldn't have my own apartment and no one wants to pay for art in this country you don't get paid to do what you want you get paid to work hard and some people are lucky but you have to be realistic and..." CANCEL! CANCEL! Damn. Some of you may know my "dream" is to release music and I have a bit of a struggle between devoting myself to my career and putting more time into my music, I've talked about it before. I don't think it's a real conflict, just in my mind. I wonder if I "attracted" this conversation as a reflection of my own dilemma. I would never tell someone that, "ah, you know if you haven't made it yet you should probably think about putting those dreams behind you". I think I need more positive friends. This does not help me. We are who we are around. But it's all opinion. You can't prove an argument like that. So why is it taken as fact? It has no basis. Have you guys had doubts like these about your dreams and overcome them? Wouldn't most successful people say "I never gave up, never doubted I could be the best (abc)."