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Originally Posted by chaostheory  In having gone through the same thing years ago, the biggest and hardest thing i had to learn ( and accept ) was that you cannot be in love enough for two people. Both have to be willing to work on it. Yes it's painful. Yes, it sucks. But the reality is that until the other person is at least ready to try, there's nothing you can do. You can't force her to want it, no matter how much you do. i tore myself apart trying everything i could think of to make him want to try, and all it did was leave me emotionally exhausted. My only consolation is that i have no regrets. i know i did all i could, and that there was nothing else i could have done. You have to let people make thier own choices, even if you don't want to. Even if you could force her to come back ( which you can't ), would you really be happy knowing she was only there because it's what YOU wanted? |
hmmmm.... you say nothing else you could have done? I realize other people are going to make their own choices... but what you say and do affects their choices right? Perhaps you could have communicated better, or not taken the rejection so hard. I'm just putting things out there, but I doubt that "nothing else I could have done" is the right outlook. You're right other people make their own choices, and so do you... you make the choice in how you're going to handle and deal with the situation. You say you did all you could do? But did you really? Of course you can't force someone to come back, and you shouldn't want to. But you can learn better communication styles and better ways of relating to people.