why do you think that your therapist told you they couldnt help you? And, also, it seems to me that your doctor is sending you messages that are subliminally discouraging. Unless you have recently gained weight, I am guessing that for a while you were trying to lose the weight naturally, and though I do not know enough about your problem, it seems that the fact that your doctor seems to be pushing surgery right now is encouraging you to give up on the natural weight loss methods. Also, the fact that he/she is telling you that counselling will not help you and that you are "too smart to be fat" also states to me that this person is not going to be a great help to you if you decide to forgo surgery and continue with your goal to lose weight naturally. Of course, i dont know you or your relationship with your doctor, but either way it cant hurt you to seek out a second opinion.
I know that for some, surgery is the best option, and many people have have weight loss surgery, and their lives have changed for the better. However, I believe that you think you can still lose weight naturally and that you shouldnt give up on that goal, even if the professionals you are speaking with are telling you to do so.
Now, these suggestions are going to sound superficial and maybe redundant but i have two things that you might consider trying (i am sorry if you havent already tried them). i know that you mentioned online journalling. there is a free website fitday.com that allows you to enter calories, of the foods you eat, and also write in a journal each day, documetning your weight loss. You can also keep goals for yourself, activity and nutrition-wise. Also, weight watcher, for a postivie and motivating group atmosphere, which is different from the one you have been recieveing, may also be somethign that can help you. I hope that maybe you will look into these possible solutions before deciding to go with surgery.
Most of all, however, remember that a positive mind-set that is programmed for success is essential to completing any goal. If you believe that you will fail, you will fail. If you set yourself up for success and think positively, you will most likely succeed. I suggest that you do some online research both for details about people who have undergone your surgery and for people who have lost a simialr amount of weight to the kind you are hoping to lose naturally. There are many success stories on the web, blogs, forums etc. I wish you the best of luck and hope you keep posting here, if you need support.
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