mlc82, I can relate to the introvert/extrovert problem very well. And to the "old married couple" thing too
But IMO this old married couple thing has absolutely nothing to do with unpleasant tasks like moving. It's more in the couple dynamics.
I think in my case it's because I do the fun things mostly alone (or they take place in my head). My relationship, like my apt, is more something like the safe harbor - my home is my castle. I guess that can get quite boring after a while. I don't know if that's the case for you too. But in any case, it's up to us to change that!
You want the fun in your relationship back? Do it! Why don't you just go out more often and have fun with her? Having fun can be about very little things too, no need to go out. Even unpleasant tasks can be a lot of fun, like a spontaneous water battle while cleaning the bathroom together. You know what I mean. I think fun or not fun is nothing else than just in your head.
Could it be that you expect this relationship to be this way after a while, because the others have been? You know - you get what you expect.
Just like:
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Originally Posted by you Believe me, I KNOW that women will pull that sort of thing to try and manipulate someone into feeling guilty and then helping them, and this is always what I think of when she does this and it pisses me off- I can't help it. |
Women will NOT pull that sort of thing to try and manipulate someone into feeling guilty and then helping them. That's only what you think about women, what you expect to see. You get what you expect.
You can create what you want to have
edit: oh, and I can't multitask either. We're really twins
