Thanks again for all of the replies... Uber and Jim, what you two are talking about in regard to watching yourself when you know you're on edge (along with Uber's hormone reference) is excellent advice, I try to do the same myself and when I know I'm angry, not discuss things until I've chilled out, which usually doesn't require more than a cup of coffee and 10 minutes of doing something fun like computer games- If I'm really, raging angry, I'll go work out and then come back to the problem
Angela, I totally see what you're saying and part of what I was mad about was definitely myself making myself feel guilty- I was raised with that "always put friends above yourself" idea and sometimes it really drives me nuts. I'm a pretty self centered person (I think there's a big difference between self-centered and "selfish" btw), but find it hard to put my own interests above anyone I care a lot about- I'd feel crappy and and bad about myself if I'd had to put off doing something for one of my close male friends (I have 2 guys who feel almost like brothers, even lived with both off and on for the last 5 years, sometimes both at once- my best friends
) but those guys and I can read each other easily and know when to leave each other alone.