[uberinquisitive]

Originally Posted by JimOfferman

Since you are aware of this, you could (and should) try to refrain from starting arguments when you are in your most vulnerable mode. Tell yourself to save the argument for when you feel less emotional and more clear headed. If you do that consistently, you will lessen the need for your bf to withdraw during those periods and - quite ironically - increase your chance of receiving the support you want from him when you need it most.

You cannot control other people directly, but you can control the behaviors in you that trigger others to do certain things.

Good point Jim.