mlc82 - as you know, I've been in your gf's position very recently.
I don't think there is a way to "fix" the situation, at least not in the near future.
Even if I work on myself, I will always feel a pinch when my bf tells me he needs space. I'm sure there will be times when I just get really upset and cry, as if it's the first time.
Usually, I'm happy and fine when the bf does his alone thing because he hasn't mentally pulled away. He tells me, "I'm gonna clean my apartment, but I'll see you tomorrow, sweetie."
But, as soon as my intuition senses that he's going deep into the alone time, all of a sudden, I panic. How do I know he's going deep into alone time? He stops calling as regularly. And he tells me, "I'm gonna clean my apartment." No "see you tomorrow." No "sweetie." It's like he becomes impersonal.
I suspect that your gf might be similar to me. Usually, totally fine. Then, maybe once or twice a months, she freaks out.
Some of it is hormonal also. I know that I turn really emotional a week before my period. And, my bf intuitively senses it, so he starts pulling away. It's like he's in self-protection mode. And that triggers an even bigger argument, because I'm in my most vulnerable mode.
I guess the best way to handle the situation is to find patterns, and become more aware.
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