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Originally Posted by dancer  I think it is more a matter of choosing to allow the emotion to run your life or choosing to feel the emotion without becoming attached to it. I am learning to choose the latter. This enables me to deal with the emotion instead of pushing it away or collasping into it.
When someone dies there are many emotions involved in the grieving process. Sadness is just one of them, shock, anger, denial are others, right at this moment I cannot remember all of them. It is easy to get stuck in one particular emotion and this delays the process. I've been there and got stuck in several.
It is not about not feeling, it is about how you choose to feel emotions. I hope my insight helps you. |
Yes I believe this is very much true. It's not that you "choose" to feel bad or angry or upset....it's that you "choose" how to deal with it. "Oh I'm feeling anger inside of me...oh well" (something to that degree).
Again it's how you deal with it...not that you can choose not to have that emotion. Here's a tip given to me by my uncle...Feelings pass just like gas
