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Originally Posted by introspective1  I hate how people make it sound so easy to "Choose" not to let others comments or actions bother you. Maybe I am naive, but people make it sound like, for example, if someone dies in your family you can choose not to be sad about it...Thats how ridiculous the whole concept sounds to me. |
I totally agree. I have thought about that too and I can only conclude that some people have a much easier time following logic and not feeling things, or "choosing" what they want to feel, whether for themselves or for others. Then there are people, like me and you, who just feel...and even if I may know things logically and know what might be wise to do, I can't do it, because of my emotions leading me somewhere else. The saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me" applies to the former.
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Originally Posted by introspective1 I guess I am not figuring out the correct way to choose to not get angry easily, take things personally, or get hurt the way I do. |
Maybe people are predisposed to feeling or not feeling, predisposed to an ability to drown out any nagging, impractical feelings that might be lingering, or particularly lacking that ability.
At any rate, I think it's not at all right to judge someone in these matters, or to demand a person to change, because these are specifically matters of inner make-up and how individuals process different things. And, in this world, not feeling, not being emotional is considered superior to feeling.