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Silly · 01-05-2008, 01:03 AM

I feel silly for even posting this but I'm concerned about my friend.

Every week my husband and I meet our friends for happy hour and we alternate between three different restaurants. We've done this for 3 or 4 years now. My husband and I usually arrive before our friends do so we take our seats and sit where we always sit from week to week.

About three weeks ago my friend arrived earlier than we did but instead of sitting where she normally sits, she was sitting in my usual seat. Her husband arrived at the same time as my husband and I did and asked my friend to take her usual place so he could see the TV. She refused. To avoid a conflict my husband sat next to her and I sat next to her husband so he could see the TV.

The next week, there she was again in my seat. I really wasn't all that concerned; it's just a chair after all.

Week three - We arrived at our second favorite restaurant and saw our friends entering the restaurant. We parked and went inside. Now, the restaurant was practically empty so my friend could have chosen any table she wanted but she went for our usual table. There are 6 chairs at the table but instead or choosing a different one, my friend sat in my usual place, again. Now I'm getting concerned.

My friend and I have been friends for many years. If she wanted my usual spot it seems like it would have been easy to just talk about it and see if we couldn't just alternate seats from week to week but she has said nothing. I've thought about asking her why she's doing this but it's so "all of a sudden" and "out of the ordinary" that I'm reluctant to confront her. Should I be concerned about her? (Ok, I'm already concerned, obviously.)

Am I just being silly about this? I feel like I am. What would you do? Anything?

01-05-2008, 01:03 AM	#1 (permalink)
Silly Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 5	This is silly! She's after my chair I feel silly for even posting this but I'm concerned about my friend. Every week my husband and I meet our friends for happy hour and we alternate between three different restaurants. We've done this for 3 or 4 years now. My husband and I usually arrive before our friends do so we take our seats and sit where we always sit from week to week. About three weeks ago my friend arrived earlier than we did but instead of sitting where she normally sits, she was sitting in my usual seat. Her husband arrived at the same time as my husband and I did and asked my friend to take her usual place so he could see the TV. She refused. To avoid a conflict my husband sat next to her and I sat next to her husband so he could see the TV. The next week, there she was again in my seat. I really wasn't all that concerned; it's just a chair after all. Week three - We arrived at our second favorite restaurant and saw our friends entering the restaurant. We parked and went inside. Now, the restaurant was practically empty so my friend could have chosen any table she wanted but she went for our usual table. There are 6 chairs at the table but instead or choosing a different one, my friend sat in my usual place, again. Now I'm getting concerned. My friend and I have been friends for many years. If she wanted my usual spot it seems like it would have been easy to just talk about it and see if we couldn't just alternate seats from week to week but she has said nothing. I've thought about asking her why she's doing this but it's so "all of a sudden" and "out of the ordinary" that I'm reluctant to confront her. Should I be concerned about her? (Ok, I'm already concerned, obviously.) Am I just being silly about this? I feel like I am. What would you do? Anything?