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Originally Posted by Niki  Yeah, should I tell an alcoholic to keep on drinking then?
Basically it's like this, the guy is asking for help in this forum, so he wants to stop right?
"If it were that easy I doubt he'd be posting asking for help."
It is that easy man, just have to believe it. I'm pretty sure every person has the personal power to do whatever it wants to do, or to quit whatever it wants to quit at any given time.
I think he got great help, but I just wanted to point out to not forget his focus, and that's to stop staring at the computer screen from the morning till the evening.
At the end it's his decision that brings him to victory or failure.
well, thats my humble opinion.
I like bwb's post btw |
Of course you shouldn't tell an alcoholic to keep on drinking but telling them to stop will have absolutely zero effect.
The personal power is in each of us of course but getting to it is another matter altogether. I have worked with enough people trying to change behaviors to know that it's sledom easy for them and even getting them to believe they can change can be problematical.
I wasn't then and I am not now, having a dig at you, ok? I'm just saying if it were that easy there would be no need for people to ever seek professional help they would just change.
Telling people that feel like that to simply change can isolate them and belittle their problem (in their mind) sending them into their shell and reinforcing a belief system that already may think they're screwed up because they can't do something that they have been told is 'easy'
And yeh bwb made some good points especially about the hard wired bit because that is exactly what Jack now has to break. It almost loops back to the forming new habits and riutals post from yesterday.